ANYWAYS, back to the bachelor I have a few thoughts on it and love. Plus I have really missed writing so I think it is time to get back to that. I am not ashamed I love the show the bachelor and would go on it. Granted I would have to find some family to fill in for mine because they are too crazy and would never support me. I always had a plan in case I went on the Bachelor. I would get America to fall in love with me, have something come up when I was in the final three, have to go home, make my pitch about how I still want to find love, become the bachelorette, have 25 men try and court me, fly all over the world for these insane dates, and then not get engaged, date the guy for a few months after the show, realize that once the camera stops rolling so does the wooing and then get tired of him, have a dramatic break up,America still loves me, then go on Bachelor in paradise (because once you are on the bachelor apparently you do not have to have a real job anymore) then chill on the beach for a few months, come home, do constant promotions for the show, marry the guy I am currently with because I do not want anyone else and then well that is the end of my plan.
Now I am very torn about the bachelor and the whole love thing. Like Jojo said in the last episode " I am tired of competing for people for love." I had two things to say to her, 1) the entire premise of the show is that you go on and compete against other women for love. It is almost like the hunger games sometimes and a fight to the death for a man. Or maybe even like survivor. Man, it would be so much better if instead of giving out roses the person that was being rejected was told something like "You are the weakest link. GOOD BYE" or " You have been voted out of the Bachelor mansion and then take her candle and blow it out. Much more entertaining. and 2) You had an ex boyfriend at home who wanted you back, you said no to continue competing for love and to go on a show and make people compete for you. Girl you are confused. Plus I bet that Chad guy is PISSSSSSED. But I will support you and remind you that you do you boo boo, YOU DO YOU.
Do I think you can find love on the Bachelor? YES. Do I think it can turn out to be true and lasting love? YES ( looking at you Sean and Catherine). Do I think they should get engaged at the end of three weeks of knowing each other, going on three dates, and up until you say yes to a proposal knowing your bae is dating other girls? UMM NO. Hard pass on that. If my current man friend had proposed one day after telling some other girl he loved her, and 5 minutes after breaking up with the other girl then I would have been like 'BOY you best get up off that knee and quit playing." I think that when you first meet someone you feel alot of lust and attraction. I believe in love at first sight. I believe that even if it is love at first sight, you best see what that person looks like in the morning and smell their stank morning breath before you know for sure. I knew my current fiance loved me (or was blind and crazy, not sure which yet) after the first time he saw me fresh in the morning with my hair looking like Medusa and my breath smelling like some stank dragon breath. THAT IS LOVE!
The bachelor sets you up perfect for love, helicopter ride, exotic locations, fancy dinners, private concerts. Your first date with these people is not what would happen if they met you at the local bar and asked you out. I want the bachelor to have a 3 months later episode where they follow the couple around for a day. See them go on a date to a nice Italian restaurant ( that is located in America and called Olive Garden because lets be foreal if they guy in real life had the money to rent helicopters and fly to exotic locations for dates, the he is not a Bachelor. He is on his 5th wife) come home where his dirty socks are on the living room floor and his dishes are piled up in the sink. Show us the real life. I believe that Ben and Lauren are in a lust stage. The lust wears off, you get into the real world, and these couples break up. MAYBE if instead of getting ENGAGED to be MARRIED three crazy dates in, you agreed to DATE like NORMAL people for a while, the pressure would be off.
In the end I will sit back and watch every season of the show and cheer for the craziest person on their. Lets be for real, the crazies always know what they are doing. They are the smart ones. They get people talking. They get people invested. The producers want them to stay until they literally can't anymore, then they get to be on every spin off ever and they are always famous. Hello, very smart. Plus I will always have a special place in my heart for poor Olivia who got stranded on an island, in the middle of a HURRICANE for a girl who list her job as a TWIN! Being a twin is not a job. I think if I went on the show I would think of a crazy profession like "Wine Fan". It is just as much of a job as chicken enthusiast.
So to sum up. I love the Bachelor. I wish them all the love and happiness in the world. I just wish the bachelor would show us real life with these couples. Life when the camera stops, things go to normal and you have real struggles. My advice to any one out there looking for love is to not mistake Lust for love. They may at times feel the same but when the lust goes away, if there is no real love there, you have nothing. My second piece of advice is to do not say yes to a proposal to a man who has been dating other women up until the moment he proposes. That is just rude.
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