#Relationship goals

I, Jennifer Johnson, have been victimized personally by Regina George. In this instance Regina George is the internet and the stupid society we live in today. I do not know if you have seen the post lately, or watched any rom-com ever, or read a Nicolas Sparks movie, or maybe watched Hallmark Channel, But all of these things are personally attacking me daily! They are showing me images of what true love should be and how true love should work, well honey as someone who is truly in love, let me tell you that is not reality. Once you are in a relationship a true goal would be to come home and not have to do the dishes or sweep the floor. Shit that is a goal. A true goal would not to have to worry about what is for dinner every single day because you " ARE A WOMAN WHO IS SUPPOSED TO TAKE CARE OF HER MAN>" Honey, this is not 1915 and I do not know if you have seen my man but he can feed himself. A true goal is being able to come home after a long day at work, but my sweats on, and be able to sit on the couch with my fiance for the rest of the night with no worries. These are true goals. All that other crap is dumb. You have probably seen the picture of the guy who sent his girlfriend a dress and told her to be ready at a certain time and she acted like she was so excited. LIE! Chances are the dress did not fit and the girl was not ready at that time,even though they had a reservation. The truth is I made myself the victim. I was the one who fell into the trap. I believed that all men would be like Noah from The Notebook and write me one letter for every single day we were apart, when in reality girls you should be thankful if you get one text message while you are apart. I mean I always think, if Noah can write her that many letters how can you not text me back? That is not fair to me to have to think that way because of stupid movies. And all these relationship goals pictures, heres a newsflash "THEY ARE POSED" DUH its called modeling. I am not saying men out there do not do nice things for their spouses, but I am saying when they do it is often not what you expect. My fiance wakes up in the morning and makes me coffee before I go to work To him, that is a grand gesture. To me it is a sweet and thoughtful thing to do. Men are wired stupidly while us ladies are smarter. I watch Hallmark daily and those men are always on it. I get caught up and think "Well I don't see my boyfriend lighting up the entire city in lights to prove his love" instead I see dirty dishes in the sink but his clothes that have been laying on the bathroom floor for days has now been moved. I feel victimized and I take it out on him. On the flip side, Fella you best recongize that we females loves the stupid goey romantic crap. Not all the time but any female who says she doesn't like it, is a liar! A BIG OL LIAR. Everyone likes to be made to feel special. Everyone likes to be able to tell their friends about the wonderful thing their spouse did for them. Everyone wants to be the next picture that says relationship goals. It is human nature. I love the human I have decided to spend the rest of my life with on a cold chicago day while I was in my pajamas. It was never how I pictured it. Nothing is. My relationship goals was that when you live with someone you come home to them every night and get to have dinner with them. FALSE. My relationship goal was that you always have a date to everything you want to go to. FALSE. My relationship goals was alot of things that will never happen. I am learning new goals are. I am learning to accept that a true goal is just wanting the dishes to be cleaned and floors to be swept. A relationship goal is having food ready when you get home,whether they are eating with you, because its nice to not have to worry. A relationship goal is asking me if I want to go to the bathroom first so that it doesn't stink when I am getting ready.I will always get mad when there are no romantic gestures. As a female I will always feel under appreciated for all I do and the fact he is not writing it across the sky how awesome I am. I am only human. But ladies of the world, it time to set some real relationship goals. Ones that are long lasting.