You're still single??

The age old question, the question that every girl everywhere that is over the age of 20 and not in a relationship, engaged or married gets. It is usually paired with a face of utter confusion, leaving you to believe that something has to be wrong with you. I mean after all I am a shriveled up, single 23 year old with all my best days behind me, right? (enter dramatic eye roll now). I think what is so hard for people to understand is that dating now is not like it used to be. I mean am I not allowed to figure out who I am before marrying some one who will drive me crazy all the time? Am I not allowed to figure out what is it about me that makes me unique, what it is about me that I like, what it is that I want in this world with out having some guy tie me down? I am 23 and in no hurry to get married (but please dont tell my grandma since she is constantly asking me if there is "anyone special in my life?"). And why does some girl that is my age, seems to have her life kinda sorta but not really put together, and single automatically have something wrong with her? I mean I think that it's ridiculous. This is 2013 PEOPLE! This is not 1918 when people had to get married young or they were no longer desirable. I mean why can't I take time? And TRUST me when I say, the dating world is not what it used to be.

I wrote that blog about chivalry and yeah that's a lot of the problem but the other problem is where are you going to meet someone? Why do I have to have so much pressure on me that every time I go somewhere I have to be on the scout for guys? I mean I am a true believer that you will meet someone when you least expect it and that's what I plan to do. AGAIN, I do not know where to begin to look!! Do I want to meet some drunk guy at a bar who only has one thing on his mind at the time, NO! Do I want to sign up for a dating website and hope to not get catfished, NO! I am no longer in college. I used to hear, well if you dont meet someone in college, you never will. Well my bad, I forgot that the only place in the world that males populate is on college campuses!! I mean is it hard to meet guys, no. I see guys everywhere. Is it hard to meet a guy who will actually take a step, ask for your number, try to talk to you and get to know you, with out you letting them in your pants, ABSOLUTELY.

Another thing, to all you people out there who ask, "How are you still single??" WELL, that is NOT a compliment. That is you asking in a nice way, "what is wrong with you that I haven't yet figured out?" Why do I have to be coupled off? Why do I have to have someone else so that people will think I am complete? Can't I alone be enough for everyone? Why do I have to have someone who wants to date me to prove I am enough? WELL I AM 23, SINGLE, AND HAPPY!  Do I sometimes wish I had a boyfriend, sure but then I remember that more than likely I would get tired of them after 5 minutes. I am a firm believer in fate. I will meet someone one day when I least expect it. To all you other single ladies: put your hands up, give me a high five, and lets go rule the world!