>>Agree:I agree because girls of this generation have become, how do I put this gently, little SLUTS. It's true. We have all heard it, and as soon as I said that word everyone's mind went to someone you know. We have lowered our standards and (have it in our pretty little heads) that if we just sleep with a guy he will love us. A majority of our college years are spent hooking up with random people and doing the "walk of shame". It's just an acceptable part of society these days. Well that's a load of BULL SH*T. Accept nothing less than the FLOWERS and CHOCOLATES. Make a guy WORK for it. Make him EARN it. I am not saying that they should hang off of a ferris wheel until you agree to go out with them (I mean get real, no one but Ryan Gosling can pull that off) but do small gestures. Everyone just wants to know that we care. Girls for the love of God, let them show you that they do care before you jump into bed with them. There are girls out there who try and make guys work for it, but why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?? Well you wouldn't!!
It boils down to is that there is no more courting. Every woman out there wants to be COURTED! If they don't then they are sitting upon a throne of lies, but we are no longer making men court us. We are accepting what ever guys give out. We have lowered our standards in order to fit this mold of society. In order to fit in. Society also teaches us the more girls a guy sleeps with, the "cooler he is" (and probably more disease ridden). Girls, if you sleep with too many guys you are a slut but if you don't give it up you are a prude. It's just like Kacey Musgraves said, "If you save yourself for marriage you're a bore, if you don't save yourself for marriage you're a whore." We can't win! So yeah girls, we have become complacent but no it's not all our fault. We need to raise our standards and accept nothing less than courting. Furthermore, guys why does the change have to start with us? As a girl I feel like if I ask to be courted by a guy, then I am needy. Guys you don't want to put in the effort anymore and for some reason as girls we are not making you. Every time I mention anything about being courted, I feel that I get some type of feed back about how this is real life not a romantic movie. Well no duh! (if it was everyone would be singing all the time and sadly that doesn't happen in my life) but does that mean there can't be any effort? We aren't asking you for these big romantic gestures (although those would not be turned down) but is it too much to ask for you to call me? Let me know how you feel? Open my door for me? Or take me out somewhere nice once in a while with out me having to ask for it? I know that is all just sooo unreasonable, I know!->Disagree: I disagree because it is not all women's fault. As girls we are trained by society to be these "sex objects" and that's how you will get men. You have to be skinny, and pretty, and smart, and funny, and blah blah blah. Well I mean it's hard enough trying to figure out who you are on your own with out society, and men, telling you that if you aren't these things then you aren't desirable. (Don't worry, there will be a whole article about the other lies society tells). I mean when was the switch anyways? When did sleeping around become acceptable and how? And where was I when this was happening?? That is the bigger question! I as a woman, REFUSE to accept full responsibility. I told you yesterday I grew lady balls when I decided to write that blog, well guys grow a pair and learn how to court!
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