Not just for lovers

Valentines day is tomorrow. As a single lady, I know I am supposed to live up to the stereotype and be bitter and sad. I am supposed to be crying into a bucket of cookie dough ice cream while being made painfully aware of how single I am. I am suppose to be a LOVE HATER! I should be planning what restaurant I am going to sit outside of to throw eggs at all the happy couples! Or looking like Reese Witherspoon in the below picture

But personally I love Valentines Day! And if you are someone out there saying, “Of course the single one loves Valentines Day” Well 1) shut up! No one that is single needs someone else to point it out to them, thanks though. We are not out there walking around and pretending that we have invisible boyfriends. In my personal opinion, if I wanted to be in a relationship I could probably find someone but I refuse to lower my standards. 2) Why do people hate valentines day? Like I do not understand!

            As a kid Valentines Day was awesome!  First of all, you were guaranteed to get a Valentine from everyone in your class. You got to make your little “basket” that hung on the front of your desk. You got to go to the store and pick the valentine cards with the faces of the backstreet boys on them and pass them out to everyone! And of course there was class parties and candy! SO MUCH CANDY! Then you got older and realized that no one is forced to give you valentine cards anymore. But the biggest perk is that all the candy goes on sale the day after Valentine's Day! Which leads me to the point of my blog. Now for months I have seen all these articles floating around on facebook of people giving all this advice of why you should get married, what you should do before you get married and blah blah blah. I ask myself everytime who are these people that they get to give me advice. Well I have decided they are no more qualified then I am to be dishing out advice so here is my column on why you should love Valentines Day even if you are single (OOOO THE tragedy). Since everyone knows why you should love the holiday if you are with someone let me tell you why even if you are alone.

1)    You do not have to worry about what you are going to wear. I mean I can wear my sweatpants all day. If I want to go out to a nice restaurant in my sweatpants I can because I am already extremely impressed with myself and I am not shallow enough that I have to dress up for myself. 

2)    I do not have to shave my legs! There is no chance of anyone but me seeing them so they can stay a little hairy. This is definitely an advantage this year since it is so cold out that my legs need the extra insulation.

3)    No pressure of buying the perfect gift for someone else.

4)    No stress about what they are going to get me and where they are going to take me. Personally I think I love Valentines day so much because I live in a Nicholas Sparks world where a guy should tell you he cares everyday instead of having to wait for a special occasion. Get your shit together gentleman.

5)    Time to celebrate the love you have for yourself.

6)    I can watch all the sappy rom-coms I want with out having to worry about what else is going on.

7) You get to buy your candy cheaper the day after!

8) You get to read this lovely blog about why you should love Valentine's Day

              No I am not dissing Valentine’s Day for all of you with that special someone. I am just saying that us single ladies shouldn’t hate it either. No one should think you have to hate it just because you are single. Life sadly :( is not a Nicholas Sparks movie so Valentine's Day is the day where you can be as cheesy and lovey as you want without judgement. But I am a lover of love! I love watching love on TV and seeing people happy because they are in love. So if you are a single lady and a Valentines fan like me then lets party! If you are someone saying, “ You are single so you cant like valentines day!’ Then to you I say YOU CANT SIT WITH ME!

Dime a dozen

            I just read this article called: WHY YOU SHOULD CELEBRATE YOUR FRIENDIVERSARY! I posted it on my Twitter and Facebook already but I am going to go ahead and post it with this blog too. So click on the big bold letters above and read the article. Now as you have probably noticed there is a trend to this blog and the trend goes something like this: I read or watch something, then I post my insanely insightful thoughts about it on here, my blog. Yall pretty much have a running commentary of what is going through my head at all times of the day, so you are welcome J! So this particular post is going to be about the lingering questions I have from this article and also my feeling after reading it.

            Okay my first lingering question is: How do these girls know like the exact date they became friends? If they don’t are they just picking a random date or are they trying to be realistic about the time they met? If you asked me where I met most of my friends I would draw a blank or come up with a story so greatly interwoven that you would have no choice but to believe me. If you are going to lie at least make sure that it is elaborate enough to be believed but not too elaborate that others can see through the lie. Secondly, the article mentions how people brought them gifts, so do you really get gifts or is that sarcasm? And if you do get gifts, do you have to share them or is there like a gift for each of you? I don’t want some gift I have to share. I want a gift of my own. That’s why I won’t get married. I do not want to have to share anything with my stupid husband (okay that is a little harsh, I would totally share with him, maybe). So friends, when we do have this party: I GET FIRST DIBS ON PRESENTS! And are their Friendiversary cards? If not, can I call dibs on contacting Hallmark first about the idea?

           Okay so this brings me to my take away thoughts. I think the idea of a Friendiversary is amazing. I mean if you are a 90s girl like myself and if you are anything like me you grew up listening to the Spice Girls. In the Spice Girls greatest song of all time they sang the lyrics, “Make it last forever, Friendship never ends.” I mean if the Spice Girls sang about it, then it has to be true! I mean the Spice Girls are pure geniuses, like everyone knows that! Okay back to my point, remember your friends. They will always be the ones there for you. I know that it may seem like all I talk about is friendship, and that’s a lie! I am at that age where I am figuring out what really matters. The age where I should be thinking about settling down and meeting someone and doing all those grown up things like getting married. When my husband/boyfriend is driving me crazy, they will be the ones I turn to for a venting session. I think in this day and age sometimes it is hard to remember friends should be like your family. And sometimes your friends are like your spouse. I mean they know all the gross and crazy things about you that a potential partner might never be able to understand.

           It is so easy nowadays to just send your friend a short text bailing on them and they always understand. It is so easy to just lose touch and not try to actually speak to each other. To think because you are reading their tweets, you know what is going on in their lives. I know how easy it is to push your friends aside because they will always understand. I have done it. I admit it. I have been the bad guy who has something else pop up and bailed on my friends but I knew they would understand. I love the idea of being able to put everything else that is going on in my life aside and just celebrating being friends To put the worries of jobs and boys and money aside for one night to celebrate your ladies! Its good to remind your friends that you do care about them, without having to be the emotional sap that says it out loud. So kudos to you ladies for coming up with or stealing the idea from wherever you got it from! I want to be your friend simply so I can enjoy the party. SO in closing I want to thank my friends simply for being you and let you know that my calendar is pretty wide open nowadays so just let me know when our pretend anniversary is and we will have a GIANT party. Complete with wine and cake!  And if you are really special to me I will get us shirts made with our faces on it! And don’t forget to thank your friends today and you can also thank me for reminding you to thank them! And remember friends are a dime a dozen!

PS: I have no idea what that means, the whole dime a dozen thing, so could someone explain it to me?

Change, Change, Change!

I wrote the title of this blog to the tune of the song, "Chain, chain chain! Chain of fools". So if you did not read it to that tune, I kindly ask you to go back and re-sing the title. Now that the issue has been taken care of, I bring you to the really long-winded point of this blog. I sat down to write (because I am a writer now and writing is what I do) but I did not know the topic I was going to discuss. So I pulled up this website, then I went to twitter and twitter stalked, then still in the mood for stalking swung over to instagram, then landed on Facebook. And that my friends is where I was found the inspiration I needed to write this blog. Mark Zuckerbluger (I don't know his actual know but that sounds close) kind of smacked me in the face with it. It was called Facebook movie! It inspired me to talk about (if you sang the title you should know) CHANGE!! That 5 letter word, (it's actually 6 letters) that I truly used to dread but after watching all these Facebook movies, I changed my opinion on change; you like that I did there, let me just say, PUN INTENDED!

            Okay so this video goes back to when you first got sucked into the dark, time consuming vortex that is social media and fast-forwards to present day. I got lost in this vortex in 2007! 2007 for me was seriously like a lifetime ago for me. I look at the post I made and the pictures I posted back in the day compared to this year. I look at who I was friends with and the type of person I considered myself and I realize I have changed. I use to think sharing all this personal stuff on the Internet was stupid, but then I got to see this video and realized that the world got to see the changes I have gone through. And hopefully they can see the journey I went on from being the most awesome person ever to be even awesomer (yes, it is a word! If twerk is a word, awesomer can be a word!) Now let me take a step back and tell you about my long struggle with the word change.

            Have any of you ever watched Boy Meets World? (If you haven’t then I kindly ask you to step away from the computer, and go watch every season. THEN AND ONLY THEN will you be allowed to read this blog because I do not want any weirdoes who haven’t watched Boy Meets World reading this blog!) Well there is one episode where Cory has a mental breakdown because everything is changing. That is how I use to feel. If my mom would bring home a flavor of Cheez-its that was not the original, I would freak out because that was a change! Like how dare she insult the original cheez-its and buy the changed version! You may be thinking that the Cheez-its show the larger picture, but no! I really like the original flavor daggum it! No but seriously, if something as small as a Cheez-it flavor could freak me out then I was in for a world of breakdowns in my life. As I look back at the video, I see all these things that have changed in my life. Changes I did not realize until they were over!

            As I continue to grow up, I realize things are constantly going to change. Food I thought I would hate forever, I have grown to love (like some of the non-original flavored Cheez-its I have truly grown to dig). I have lost friends I did not think I would, but found new friends to take their place. As you change, you will have friends that will embrace you for that and you will also have friends that will say PEACE! I have realized that if I do lose these friends, it means my change was for the better because those people sucked anyways. I have changed in that I have quit worrying so much about what other people think and started to put more value in my own thoughts and myself more. I have changed in the fact I am more confident than ever in myself. I do not need the validation of others to decide my life. I do not need others to tell me I am awesome because I know it to be true (although hearing it now and then would be nice) I have CHANGED! My friends have CHANGED! MY LIFE HAS CHANGED!! I will not longer cower in the corner at the thought of change. I will no longer try to fight change. I will no longer be scared to say the word change. I will embrace it. I will give it a nice warm hug because I know that in the end, CHANGE IS GOOD! Nothing can stay the same forever; if it did life would be so boring and if there is one thing I hate it is being bored! I think this is the way life was intended, to be able to look back in 5 years and say, “WOW, I sure am glad my style has changed! And man am I glad I am no longer friends with that basket case” It is just the way it is, so I am jumping on the change train and moving along with my life.